Your mother probably sees you as a reflection of herself. Mine, for example, fears that because I am a plus-sized woman, society will blame her for not training me in proper eating habits. Therefore, somehow diet and weight loss seem to come up in every conversation we ever have. She's been riding my @$$ about my weight since the start of puberty when I started to grow some curves--and long before I actually was clinically overweight. Which frustrates me, but I've learned not to let it affect my self-esteem. Sure I should lose weight, but her reaction to my body is her issue, not mine.

Depression, too, is something a lot of people blame on upbringing. Your mom is afraid that depression is a shortcoming on your part, which is a failure on her part. This is why she's so anxious for you to "snap out of it," even though it seems she should know better.

Here's a trick that helps me sometimes: Instead of making a to-do list and then checking things off as you do them, reverse the process. Accomplish something first, large or small, basic or whatever, then write it down. At the end of the day you have a list of things you have done that day, and it might help you feel more positive. When I'm down, even if all I can say is that I put away a load of laundry today, I feel better about myself.

Safe hugs to you.