I could have sworn that yesterday I posted to something to this effect: "I can't believe that a young child of 14 is being blamed for her lack of respect. She has been allowed to behave this way, probably her whole life."

Anyway, I've got one question. If YOUR daughter or son was spending the whole day in their room, wouldn't you want to know what they were doing? Once you found out that it was on the computer, wouldn't you be checking the cookies in order to find out WHERE in the internet she/he has been? I SURE WOULD BE! Then I'd make damn well sure she didn't spend all her time there!

My youngest son, when still at home had a way of teasing me that he quickly changed to wording to. This is ONE STUBBORN KID!! The saying was "I don't want to, I don't have to, and you CAN'T make me!" Although he was teasing, he quickly found that that I COULD make him. And it wasn't physically, either!

Something else to consider. Miss_A says her father understands but her mother doesn't. You supposed she learned her manipulative behaviour from THEM, playing one against the other? Geez, what a concept!