this is great michele. i'm really sorry to hear he was cheated on before. i'm sure that would definitely mess with his head. i think as you focus on what you can do rather than what he needs to do then you will start to feel better and may even see changes in him. a part of co-dependency is when a person is focused on the other person and their problems and trying to change them. you can't change him--only he can do that but you can focus instead on yourself and make changes to take care of yourself like you already are by not allowing yourself to be kicked out. as he sees you treating yourself with respect he may choose to treat you with respect as well. or he may not. either way you regain some peace of mind, self-respect and clarity. i do hope your counseling appointment with him goes well. if he agrees to go regularly then you probably have a good shot of things improving with him. here's hoping for the best for you.