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Originally Posted by Brightheart
I don't think knowing any specifics about former T were what mattered to me. It came from the sense that I was interacting with a real, live, warm, flawed human being...just like myself... that made it easier for me to allow my own flaws, my own doubts, my own fears, my own vulnerability... Once I felt his being human, I was then ready to let myself be human with him. This was huge for me in therapy.
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Brightheart, I think you hit it dead on. I wish I had read this before my session yesterday, because that's what it is all about. I just couldn't articulate it.
All I brought up in therapy about this was the whole "do you have kids" thing. I wasn't able to generalize, because I couldn't figure out why it was that I wanted to know, and I knew she'd ask.
In the end, she wouldn't tell me if she has kids. But I figured as much. Even though I feel like I was able to articulate my reasons well, she's still a blank slate.