So, I have been thinking lately and I thought I would wonder aloud.

How much does our upbringing affect our judgements? And do they effect them positively or negatively? For example, when I hear a story about a disagreement between a parent and child, I tend to side with the adult first (until facts cause me to change my mind).

I believe this is because I was lucky enough to have, what I believe, are "good" parents. They expected good behavior from me and enforced consequences when that behavior was not shown. I knew I was loved and I knew my limits. I naturally assumed everyone grew/grows up like me. I know now, that is definitely not the case.

This does not mean I am blind to a parent who is wrong. Blatent cruelty and abuse is definitely not rationalized. It just means that usually until I hear enough of the story to change my mind, I give the parent the benefit of the doubt.

That being said, if I wasn't as lucky as I believe I was to have the childhood I did, would I feel the same way? I think it would make me very distrustful of adults/parents and I would side with the kids more often. I guess I'll never know. Just wanted to see what others thought.

Do you think your upbringing affects your judgement now? If so, how?