I definietly think my upbringing affects my judgement now. For example, when I was a kid my sister and I were punished through spanking. The thing about it is that if one of us did something wrong, and our parents couldn't figure out which one did it( and if neither of us would fess up to it), we both got a spanking. We were also raised to believe that if we had a problem that would stress out mom out too much that we weren't allowed to talk about it. We just had to deal with it on our own. It's not that I don't believe in spanking or that I would be judgemental toward anyone that disciplines their children that way. I just think my parents handled the spanking situations wrong. And when it comes to talking to my mom about my problems??? Well, I STILL can't do that because my father still won't allow us to "upset" my mother with anything. She's been an alcoholic for years, and in his opinion she has enough to deal with. That's what he says anyway. But now that I have 3 children of my own (2,4,6) I find myself watching my own actions to see how I react to what they do. I get to the bottom of something before I start throwing out punishments. Just because my childhood was not so good doesn't mean that my children have to live through it too. So, my upbringing does affect my judgement, but not in a bad way.