miss c, I said in my post that when away drom therapy for a lengh of time i slip back into adult mode...when i go back i regress becasue thats the name of the beast for the work that goes on in therapy...I get the feeling that everyones trying to say how "recovered" they are by how adult they are in therapy...thats not therapy .....its absolutely fine to feel angry and confused when we don't have control over how therapY effects us when in the room....the therapy room is the place to show where we still need to work at....some here seem to think that one has to be As adult as the therapist...have to not need from the therapist...well my mememe child still has unmet needs and still acts ouT, i don't have any shame about that anymore....sorry it was difficult..well actually i'm not because it will show you eventually which spot ia hurting you..take care.