This and your first post where you describe how frustrated you were with the way she was resonding to you, make me think that you found a way to punish her and she didn't react to meet the expectation of her realizing that you were angry with her. May be way off, but that's how it seems to me. Not judging, just noticing. Do you think that fits, that maybe you really wanted her to know you felt neglected by her and angry with her? That you wanted her to see that her behavior initiated the change and you wanted her to take responsibility for that?

I wish she would have responded in a way that felt good to you.