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Originally Posted by lonegael
Hmmmm, do you guys do alot of nagging at each other? Not to be unsupportive, more just to calm you, I used to lie about stupid things to my mom just because I felt that to do so was the only way to keep part of myself to myself. See, she is a compulsive nagger. Now, I am generally a person who is pretty honest, ESP about big things. But there is just something about feeling controlled that sets me off. It doens't even have to be something thatis really "control" oriented.
If he is afraid that you will get mad if he tells the truth, he might lie. I kind of doubt from earlier stuff you said, that you need to worry further than the dog's pissing on/pissing off/ getting pissed  Sounds kind of damp over ther, in fact!
It's just my ten cents, hon, so kick me if I'm wrong, and huggs anyway. |
I don't want to be non-supportive either. However, I can tell you from being a former liar myself.......that it was in response to my alcoholic mother who became super critical when she was drunk and when she was not drunk, she was a perfectionist. (Maybe that's one reason she drank? I dunno.) Anyway, it was easier to lie about inconsequential things and "clean up the damage" later than to start a row by telling the truth and never hear the end of it plus the insults that would inevitably come with it. We were taught to tell the truth and for the most part, on really big things, we did. But when it came to things like "did you take the dog out", for example, we'd say yes and then wait until she passed out and then take the dog out. See what I mean? We were kids and constantly being bombarded with criticism. It became a means of survival and a little peace. Then later, it became a habit. I had to consciously teach myself to not do it anymore because after leaving my parents' home, I had no reason to do it anymore. There was no threat anymore.