Melba,

I agree with you. I have many needs and don't feel any shame about it, nor do I think there is any intrinsic victory in the idea of not having/admitting needs. Sometimes I feel shy about discussing my needs because I don't have experience in a loving relationship where those needs are met. But I am learning in therapy how that can happen. The only thing I would say here is that both the child parts of me and the adult parts have needs.

Maybe that's it! T was acting like a big baby,so I just chimed in.