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Jan 06, 2010, 10:41 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2009
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 31
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Originally Posted by Elysium
Hey ND...
My T asks my parts what year it is sometimes too. It helps her know how present and aware our parts are of the current time. Knowing where our parts are on the timeline helps the T's understand and work with the parts.
Sometimes our T will challenge one of our parts and shake the system up a bit. Not because she's trying to be mean or difficult, but because she is trying to show a certain part that it is okay to be angry with her and around her. That the anger does not change how she feels about the specific part, and that that part can trust her not to abandon them when those angry emotions come out.
Your T could tell your teen that she won't leave and that she could be trusted until the cows come home, but your teen, if similar to mine isn't going to take that at face value, because actions speak louder than words...and many people have probably told teen they would not leave, but they did anyway. Sometimes the only way to build the trust is by showing that teen could get as mad as she wants and T would still be there.
These challenges are not easy, or fun...but there will be more where that came from, and you are going to have to fight the urge to run when heavy emotions come up because that won't be the last time.
I would see running away and switching T over this as one more way to sabotage your treatment. When you get triggered in these ways, it is most important to communicate with your T and tell her how you/your parts are feeling.
At some point...T will probably screw up and say/do something stupid tbat will upset the system. It's important to have patience in this situation because they are human, they do make occasional mistakes, and just as you are learning about your system...so is T.
It's a partnership...and she can't help you if you don't let her. 
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Thank you so much.. Your reply put everything in perspective and I will stay and fight through the pain and hard times. Thanks!!!
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