" I dont think "I" is always appropriate when considering someone elses feelings"

Strange, but that's when you need to use I statements the most. The only other way to state your feelings is "You made me feel _____ when ____" That's an acussatory statement. Besides, all things being equal, other people can't Make you anything! It's our own choice whether we get angry or not, whether we get hurt or not. Whether we respond in kind or not. Of course, it takes a whole lot of practise before you get good at it. ggrrrr If you know what I mean.

Yes, I showed a teeny bit of emotion there, but it's okay to feel it. It's what you do with it that counts. Again, another choice.

Something else I learned during therpay was to STOP - THINK - ACT. When something happens, whether someone said something to you that hurt or if you live with anxiety and panic; before you fly off the handle, STOP. Count to ten, take a deep breath, whatever helps. Then... THINK about what was said or what it is that's making you anxious or panicky. Think it through, catch yourself on the negative thinking like "I ALWAYS..." or "They ALWAYS..." If you stop and think about it, "always" isn't always true. "What if" thinking gets you in trouble, too. After you've defused the situation by thinking through it, you can ACT ON the matter. Don't REact! Reacting is like a knee-jerk; no control, no aim, no thought. It just happens. Most of these times, we wind up regreting what we said or did... or didn't do.

Hey, Serenity! Thanks for dragging my soapbox out for me! hehehe I'm climbing down off of it for now, though.

<font color=blue>Don't die with your music still inside you.</font color=blue>