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Has she still not said anything? I think that your letter was really good, and if I were your friend I would have been right back to you on that immediately to reassure you that we were still friends and to make sure that we go do something. Maybe she's really busy? Or maybe she has her own issues and is absorbed in them and not in a position to be much of a friend right now? Or maybe she is one of those who needs to be the caregiver in a relationship and now that you are doing better she doesn't feel needed so much? You really opened up to her and exposed your vulnerability. Maybe she feels bad about the way she has been acting and doesn't know what to say?

I'm sorry that you are going through this, and also that I got behind and didn't see this thread until now. I hope that she gets back to you soon and your friendship is okay. Wish I could be there and we could go do something and have some fun.

She is Norwegian? Do you mostly talk to her in English? How good is her English? Do you feel like language could be the issue? Maybe it would be easier for you to each speak your own language, since it is easier to express yourself that way, but you can understand more than you can express in the other language. Then if either of you is not sure of something you can ask for a translation. It's also easier sometimes, particularly when talking about emotions, to say it in your own language since that is the language you feel emotions in, and then translate it.

It doesn't sound like you have done anything wrong. Even without a language barrier I have always had difficulty making friends and I think part of it is just that I will always be a newcomer and people already have their friends they grew up with. I'll never be in an inner circle like that with anyone. I'm sorry that you are lonely, and I wish that I could be there.

Wendy

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