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Originally Posted by cantstopcrying
The guilt you feel is possibly due to years of being told it's your fault (typical physical abuser does not take responsibility for actions, but blames others). When we are co-dependent it is easy to confuse love with co-dependency. You are your responsibility, not him. One hit is bad enough, three CONVICTIONS? Look in the mirror and tell yourself you love YOU, not him.
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I know what you're saying. And I know about codependency, but I don't know why we confuse codependence with love. In my heart I know I love him yet in my mind I know I'm being played and the three convictions should wake me up to the truth. I realize I'm sacrificing a meaningful life because I won't let go of him even though I know I must for my own well-being.
Ha! Looking in the mirror and telling myself I love MYSELF is a tall order, but you know what? I'm going to do it today, no matter how I resist doing it. Maybe if I say it enough times, magic will happen.
Thanks for your kind response.