Thanks bloom.
At this moment I think she was trying to get me to see things a bit more 3 dimensionally. She has done this before and I always react quite strongly as it feels like she is suddenly on my mother's side and not on mine. That is not her intention, but it freaks me out, and as my response shows, I have a hard time even staying on my own side.
I did think about calling her when I was such a mess this morning, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. For now I seem to be ok, thanks to my helpers here at PC