Let's not tip-toe around who this man really is. The irony is, he MAY really have a mental illness the current of which is called antisocial personality disorder. Some of the symptoms include excessive lying, manipulation, stealing (working under the table, exstensive criminal history, drug/alcohol abuse, can fool attornies, judges, parole boards, employers and especially their spouse. There is no treatment and there is no cure. If you would, go to Google and look up antisocial personality disorder or psycopath. There is a really good support group out there if you Google psychopath research that. I was involved with one of these and felt like I was living in hell the entire time I was with him. I know a lot about these people. I can help. Please PM anytime. I would love to help you through it.