Thank you all for your support and suggestions! My husband has actually been taking some steps to get some help with the depression. He saw his doctor and although he does not want to be on antidepressants he did agree to some mild anti-anxiety meds for when he starts to feel like he's losing control. It seems to have helped him just being able to talk to someone besides me. He is starting counseling on his own this weekend, which I hope will help. He feels like he needs to go on his own for a little while because it hurts him to see me upset by his depression, I think as much as it hurts me watching him experience it. We had some family visit over the holidays which I think help, it definitely helped me!

As far as my career in the military I think I am just going to take it one step at a time at this command. We'll see if it will be better for me to get out at the end of this tour or to stay in for another one.....