I know how you feel about seeing yourself naked. I avoid looking at myself naked when dressing/showering. It makes me depressed too. Are you, in fact, overweight? If you are than you could try making some more healthful changes, as starving will only make your metabolism grow sluggish and purging doesn't actually do anything for calorie absorption. If you are not overweight but feel like your body has changed for the poorer since your children I would encourage you to look to your children for confidence and reassurance that your body is not horrible, it is an incredible tool that you've used to produce such wonderful additions to your life!