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Originally Posted by ripley
yesterday i was talking to my T about how things were when I was an adoescent, particularly between my mother and me. She asked me at some point if my mother may have felt helpless. I wasn't sure where the question was coming from, but after thinking for a moment I said "well she may have felt helpless. My father was a crazy alcoholic" She replied "yes, it is always easier to blame someone else"
I took that to mean that my mother was blaming my father for how she was, but when I was on my way home I wondered if she meant it was me blaming my father, when it was me who was making my mother feel helpess.
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There have been a lot of replies to this post, most of them speculating on what the therapist meant by her comment. But the way I see it, the therapist is responsible for communicating what she means. She didn't. It shouldn't be your responsibility to figure out what she meant. In my experience, these "cryptic" comments are all too common in therapy. I hope you ask her what she meant. And I hope she apologizes for being unclear.