So I myself have been in therapy for more than a year...started off as marriage counseling, then a need to see why I choose the women I do. Turns out I have some mommy issues that I try to resolve by picking women that are similar...which are usually selfcentered or don't put my needs on equal terms with their own. Been married three times.....trying to save the third. Obviously there is a lot more to this situation....but what I'm concerned with is I believe my wife suffers from BPD...while I'm no dr. I've been looking at myself and along with my own discoveries...I see my wife as having many symptoms of BPD. It really doesn't even matter what she has. Since I think that she fits the disorder what I need is how do I approach her with this. What do I say. Right now were living apart....we still talk but its strained. She tells me about all her anxiety and depression all of her feelings...she told me she even tried cutting...So I'm really concerned. What do I do...how do I do it? I'd be glad to give more info if asked.