exoticflower... I don't disagree with you and I wish we had caught that thread earlier on to prevent some of the seeming "piling on" that occurred. It wasn't fair to dreamseeker and it wasn't the kind of reaction she was looking for. By the time someone did finally report the thread to us and we intervened, it was already too late.

There are over 1,000 new posts per day to our community -- we do not read each one. The only we know a thread or post is inappropriate is if you -- our members -- report it by clicking on the little notebook icon next to the post in question. This was eventually done with this thread, but not until it had already progressed badly.

In fact, after we intervened, one of the members who had derailed the thread felt extremely bad about it and apologized to us. The damage had already been done and dreamseeker left because of it... but it goes to show you that sometimes people can get caught up in the heat of an argument without always realizing it (and the hurt they're causing others).

Some members were aware of dreamseeker's leaving and asked her to reconsider, or to at least give it some time for reflection, but she decided to leave. I feel badly about it, but that was her decision.

We learned something about the value of trying to put these fires out as soon as possible, but sadly we're not always able to do that.

DocJohn