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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte
Once I understood what was happening I began to try and contain myself for the sake of my son. T has been difficult as we work through the trauma, and I have found it so challenging to stay in the present when I need to and not let incidents from long ago interfere with my relationships now.
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Chris, I am glad that you are feeling better. Miss Charlotte's post highlights that 1) she understood what was happening and she continued to do her own work on her past. What I hear from you is that you are trying to deny that your triggering is even valid or normal. I just feel that this is being very unfair to yourself.
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Originally Posted by exoticflower
you just can't will things to go away. In fact the more energy you put in NOT thinking about stuff, will actually cause you to think MORE about it.
can you just tell him one on one that you aren't feeling well right now, that you still love him and that you are trying to get better? Kids usually know something is wrong anyway, but if you tell them the truth that you aren't doing well, it helps take away some of their anxiety.
I am not sure bringing your child into therapy was good timing for this by your T.
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I really agree with EF here! I especially like her idea to be upfront with your son. This is the best idea! And finally, I was also wondering how one T can take care of 2 people? From the beginning of this post I have just felt that you needed more Chris. I really, really disagree with one person having to over sacrifice for another person. I really just don't feel that it is necessary. Everyone's needs can be balanced. Your son can know that you love him dearly and that you would do anything for him but that you are having issues too and that you are working on them and that everything will work out. This communication, like EF has pointed out, will go so far in helping your son through this. Frequently the lack of communication about something is worse than the initial thing or at least the same level. I just believe in working with things the way they are instead of making things more difficult...........