DangerMagnet-
I'm so sorry that you are having such a hard time right now. I hate anniversaries. I know that nightmares can make it that much worse because it makes it harder to be awake because we are not getting enough sleep. It becomes a horrid cycle. Could you see if you can find a better way for your boyfriend to wake you up? Is he calling your name or is he shaking you? I know that if someone was shaking me when I was in a nightmare that I would wake up violently thinking they were part of it. But if they were just calling my name it wouldn't be the same because there wouldn't be the physical contact. Just a thought. I hope this gets better. Take gentle care of yourself.