Myzen, I believe that vicitms attract other victims, if they haven't come to terms with their victimization and dealt with it in a healthy way. Both of my husbands have been victims and I was a victim. Neither my ex nor my present husband has dealt with his vicitmization. I have. I know how and why.

My first husband didn't trust me. My present husband trusts me implicitly, which for me, used to translate itself as indifference. I, in turn, don't trust my husband to keep his promises, but I know that he's never been unfaithful to me. His promise breaking wounds me deeply most of the time. Even though I know that he won't keep a promise, I love him more every day. That doesn't mean that I don't often ask myself why I've put up with it for so long!

As for overbearing parents, I had two and not necessarily a mother and father. I had a mother and a grandmother. The old crone was a control freak to begin with. My mother didn't trust me any further than she could throw me... and after I turned three, she couldn't even pick me up because of a physical disability! I learned to lie and cheat and be outright ugly and rebellious just so I could do what I wanted at least once in a great while! It continued with my first husband. The day he walked out of my house was the day that I swore to change the old ways. No more lying, no more cheating, no more ugliness. "The rebel" inside me lives on! Long live the rebel! She's my life saver!