ripley ---- AJ is an adult... He is 29....and I agree that AJ should be doing things for himself......I just don't know how to get him to do anything.

Salukigirl----I really don't know what to say anymore. I came here to help get the house back in order. Thinking if the house was looking better he'd get motivated.. "wrong".....................I don't know what is going on with him. He is smart has lots of potential and very social....... yet he takes the easy way out....

I don't do a lot for him... If I didn't wash the dishes, dirty dishes would be stacked to the ceiling.....If I didn't take the trash cans out for pickup, the driveway would be full of trash bags........ He cares I'd think... But he acts like he doesn't care or know better..........He acts as if he was raised in a cave.

You might say who cares if trash is filling the driveway and dirty dishes stacked ceiling high.. Obviously AJ doesn't seem to care..... I do care....... This house is a "mistake" of AJ's dad... Yet the opportunity for AJ is great to be a homeowner... That doesn't even seem to concern AJ.....Can't sell the house yet because the market is soo bad now and way too much money will be lost should we "bail" out of the house..... So the idea is to try the best we can to manage until the market picks up or AJ gets established........

I just keep talking and nothing happens.......................No more anger...... Just sadness.......I don't know if "depression" is AJ's problem....... Guess that is something that needs to be checked out......

Good advice everyone.........And I agree.......Stop the doing for....Sometimes falling flat on one's face wakes one up.......He definitely needs to "wake" up...............Don't know what to do until he "wakes up".....I don't know what it will take......:**(