A little story to let you know how MY parents disciplined us. It was an eye for an eye in my house. And although it sounds harsh - I always consider others' feelings and am very aware of myself and how I treat others.

One time my sister took the car when she wasn't supposed to. My dad found out, went and picked it up and hid it. So my sister went back to the car and thought it was stolen. She finally called my dad bawling her eyes out that had taken the car and it had gotten stolen. But she never did it again!

Another time my brother and my sister had gotten drunk (as teens) and my dad knew but didn't say anything right then. Instead he woke them up at 7 am to have them re-blacktop our extremely long driveway in the middle of July.

I think if I were 29 and doing the things your son does this is what my parents would do - they would give me fair warning that if I didn't get my *** in gear they would change the locks on me while I was gone......and then they actually would.

Oh yeah and one time I drew on the walls in my bedroom so my dad made me clean it all up by myself on a SATURDAY. I'll give it to him, he was pretty inventive with punishments but as of today, all 3 of us have college degrees and are pretty responsible and very resourceful. We understood very young that we had to take care of ourselves because if we took advantage of someone we would have it comin to us.

So, personally, I'd change the locks.....let him find a place to stay and realize what its like to not have anything of your own. (then again I'm a tough love type of person)