Just wanted to say that there are many many people out there including here on psych central that are victims of violence and do not remember it. for example there are still holes in my memories around the violence that I went through as a child and young adult. I repressed the abuse and violence I went through so well that I ended up with Dissociative Identity Disorder. These things I repressed included/ includes such things as child abuse, being at a school when a classmate decided to shoot up the place and kill many of us that were attending that school.

I have also read many case studies like how many of those that were in the colunbine school at the time of that situation have only bits and pieces of what they went through and some dont remember that whole day at all because it was so traumatic for them.

My father fought in desert storm. he has no memory of all the killing that went on over there and still goes through panic attacks when he hears a car backfire or a loud bang occurs. he tells us about this one time when he was face to face with the enemy. he knows he shot the guy at point blank to save himself and two others, but he only knows this because the two others thank him for saving their life that day. he has no actual memory of being on the ground with this enemy pointing a gun at him and his two friends yelling at them.

we are taught by the crisis center and our psych professors not to assume everyone remembers the violence and abuse they went through because most people who have gone through combat and are victims of violence do have some or all memory loss concerning what went on before during and after the violence and abuse because they have repressed those traumatic memories.

please dont assume everyone remembers if they went through combat/violence/trauma of any kind. it may be so in your case but there are many of us out here that don't have complete whole memories.