Salukigirl.. Sounds like your parents were very wise...Think wisdom is what we lacked big time. But I can say AJ's dad and I were never on the same page when correcting AJ. I was the one "ooo AJ is not aloud to do that" and his dad always let AJ pretty much do anything.....I would say no... His dad always said yes.... Not blaming his dad.. Just AJ didn't have clear guidelines when he was young..

But then I do believe there is a time in one's life to "grow up"... Doesn't take a lot of sense to realize one has to be productive in life and want to do something to make one's life better......

Tough love is good...AJ's dad is very close to telling AJ that he has to find another place to live.....Think most of what AJ's dad does for him is out of guilt.. Out of guilt that he spent little or no time with AJ when he was growing up... ANd his dad pretty much abandoned him after the divorce........

Yes, I know all of this "yeterdays" is no excuse for his behavior today...Guess somebody better give him a big shove or kick in the butt before it is too late......looks like it is going to have to be me........