Thank you all for your responses.... I agree with so many things you have said! I just need to find the strentgh with in me to do the right thing. I have moved away from the city he lives in to be closer to my support group and am trying to rebuild my life and to repair the damage done. He will "fix" himself and deal with his addicitions or not. I have tried for 3 years to "save" him and I feel like I lost myself in the process. Now, I am trying to "fix" myself and help my children. We are all in therapy and planning on attending support groups. I feel like if I keep going through the motions and keep pretending, maybe eventually it will become reality and the hurt and emptiness inside me will be gone.