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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Well I think the question really is are YOU OK with the feelings your T has expressed?
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I agree. If you are OK with it, then what follows is not relevant to you.
But if you are not OK with it, it is important to tell the therapist that. A good therapist will respect your boundaries and work to repair the rupture in the therapy relationship, or else refer you to another therapist who will respect your boundaries. But if you tell her your concerns and she persists, then please do not make the mistake I made once of continuing to try to work with her. I told my t#3 that her manner seemed inappropriately intimate toward me. She said "therapy is an intimate relationship," which seemed dismissive of my concerns. I kept going back, and trying to say "no" to what I now see as using me to pursue her own personal agenda. She would back off sometimes, but then sometimes would say things like, "When you left last week, I wanted to touch you." It was very counterproductive.