it was perfectly okay for shula to say all of that. she has a right to be mad, elsie, even if it's not the response you have. i have to confess to being mad at them as well. however, i understand what you're saying. i know you aren't complaining and saying they were terrible parents...that's one of the last things you'd ever say... i just think that shula sees things a bit differently. perhaps in time your two views will become more reconciled. just know that either way, i care about you and i'm always here if you want to talk. ((((((((((((elsie))))))))))))))))

-shadow