Hi Purple,

My sons are now 18 and 20. When my eldest son was almost two, I found a new daycare, and after the second day, I noticed he was hitting himself in the middle of the forehead, especially when he was in the chair for me to feed him.

He did this ONLY after he began there. I said to him...no honey, don't hit Michael..

Ok this went on for three days before I went with my gut and confronted the daycare provider. I didn't ask her, I told her I knew she had hit my son. She didn't respond as someone who was shocked by what I was saying. She became immediately defensive and nasty. Her own home was fairly immaculate, so that should have been my first clue.

Well, I immediately removed my son, and the head hitting STOPPED. He went back to his usual silly fun self.

Go with your instincts on this. She is your daughter and you know her better than anyone. I wold say that there has been some type of violence either towards her or that she has witnessed and is acting out.

I hope you can keep her with you and away from those circumstances, contact the county child protective services if need be.

Hugs to you and know that doing the right thing is almost always the hardest. If it were easy, everyone would do it....

Love,