i'm reading your post, burbitine, but i'm still confused by what you mean by "fixing" the stiatuion. do you want to get out of the anger management class? do you want to repair your relationship with your T? would you like help to prevent something similar from happening in the future?

i have had my therapist say some very hurtful things to me. i am not someone who lashes out (in self defense) - i tend to withdraw and make sure i'm the one who is leaving. i think my response in about as mature as yours is - neither of them help us get to a healthier way of relating. but it is what it is, and luckily it sounds like your therapist is able to look beyond you acting out in this way to try and continue your care in the best way she can see as possible. kind of like how my therapist won't let me just quit therapy when i get hurt, but continues to do things (sometimes incredibly annoying) that will ultimately get me to a better place.

apologies if this is very rambly, i just arrived back home and am quite jetlagged. just wanted you to know i'm hear & listening, and trying to come to a place of understanding.