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Originally Posted by Burbitine
Lets just say that she did something to hurt me badly.
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When you say "she did something to hurt me," it sounds like you are saying she intended to hurt you. Is that indeed what you mean to say? If so, what is the evidence that she intended to hurt you? I can understand her doing something that hurt you, but not having the intention to hurt you -- perhaps not realizing that it would hurt you, or perhaps realizing that it would be painful for you but that it was necessary to do anyhow. We can't read peoples' minds, so need to be very careful in making judgments on what their intentions are.
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Originally Posted by Burbitine
I had used every insult i had that i could say and hold my head up high.
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I don't understand why you were using insults in this situation. That doesn't seem like a good thing to do. It sounds as though you were deliberately trying to insult her. That doesn't make sense to me.
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Originally Posted by Burbitine
When this didnt work i had started to use insults that were made to hurt, i had not even cared how much trouble i was going to get into i did it to hurt her. Obviously the few things i said to her hurt her very badly.
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I thought all deliberate insults (except those made in friendly ways, for example in an insult match by mutual consent) were intended to hurt.
It's one thing (normal) to
want to hurt someone when they have hurt you. But it is quite another thing to
act deliberately on the want. Sometimes people make a mistake and act on the want, but it is highly unusual to persist.
It sounds like you owe her a big apology for treating her badly. It sounds like you have treated her so badly that you can't expect her to forgive you, even if you do apologize, for a long time.
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Originally Posted by Burbitine
Also could it be that i feel bad due to the fact im very sexually attracted to her.
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This suggests that you need to talk to another counselor about the sexual attraction.