My husband of 16 yrs walked out at he end of August of last yr. We had ongoing financial issues, but nothing made me think he would do that. He came home from work one day and as soon as he walked in the door he said, 'I'm leaving". I asked him why and he said he's not happy. He was gone that night. Shortly after, I found out he had been drinking and smoking pot again after almost 10 yrs clean. He had been doing so for a few months behind my back. I then fond out he was seeing a woman from his work, which didn't surprise me too much when I found out who since he was always talking about her. (Stupid me should have seen it) I had asked him previously what he wants, he kept saying I don't know. He has not offered any support, when he left I wasn't working, I did find a job but am just keeping my head above water. However I just got laid off. Haven't heard a thing since I asked him for a paper for fuel assistance which he refused to give me. So I went down and filed. I cannot continue to go on with him with not one indication he wants to work on our marriage.

As you can imagine this whole thing threw me for a loop. He was the one who always encouraged me to get help. I am feeling stuck in my progress that I was making with my T. It has brought up many of my ptsd symptoms, the not knowing, fear of the future, etc. So I guess what I am asking is how did others cope.