Hi (((((((((AAAAA)))))))))... Actually I gave AJ tons of hugs and cuddles when he was younger... What I meant is I don't coddle and cater to him now as an adult.......

And I totally agree, violent and ungrateful and rude behavior is not acceptable.....And I find absolutely no excuse for aggressive and violent behavior......He has calmed down a bit... His next step, that is if he can't control his anger, is anger management classes.................Should he ever lay his hands on me I would not hesitate to call the police..........AND HE KNOWS THIS..........And he knows if he breaks anything again in this house his father will toss him out... He breaks anything else, one call to his dad, and he is out.... His dad gets furious when things are broken out of anger or rage.. He said he works tooo hard to have anyone break anything that he has paid for...AJ has been very well informed on this two issues............

Not to blame anyone, but AJ has learned some of his anger behavior from the father. His father has changed a lot over the years.... Who he is today is not who he was when I was married to him........ So there is hope for everyone............

And you are absolutely right that AJ makes his own choices now......... He knows better.. I want to believe he knows better.....He knows right from wrong.... He often said he did not want to do his "future wife" what his dad did to me... Which is clear that he knows how "not" to treat a woman or any person.....

I should have been a "stronger mom" years ago... Not sure where this "strength" is coming from now... DO hope it stays with me...