I have found therapy and medication to be largely ineffective. A role play type thing might appeal to me, however you don't find too many psychologists in the mindset of George Kelly these days. However, since this last post, I have tried to take some positive steps. For example, I cast my lure unto the internet since last time. I find this to be a more positive experience than the bar. I was able to get a couple of nibbles, but no bites. Since I decided on an honest and open style, I did not lie about my anxiety. It was interesting emailing women. I certainly am better there than at a bar. If nothing else, my self efficacy was boosted somewhat.

Ultimately why I posted in the "mens'" section is I believe these feelings have a much more pathological affect on men than women. It raises the frightful specter of ...impotence... I simply don't believe this is something women can relate to the way a man does. Much as this might make me sound like a sexist, I believe that because women can become pregnant, they will largely (and naturally) underestimate a man's need to create in, and to make changes to, their environment. I'm typically not a psychoanalysis acolyte, but my experience points me in this direction.

Ultimately though, the previous rant only explains why I posted here. I suppose I had in mind this thread being about practical ways to cope. In this regard, I'm much less interested in a psychologist's opinion than I am some "regular" guy's experience.

In that spirit, did the methods you listed work for you? If so (or if not), I would be interested in hearing them. I want to learn.