I'm not the most experienced person sexually, but to me, you sound just like me. I've had a few different boyfriends...I was always the one who initiated sex...I seemed to always be the one who wanted it, and they always seemed to turn me down. I don't know why. I'm young too...23. In my opinion, you're completely, utterly normal. If I had a boyfriend willing, I would prob want sex 2 times a day. Maybe we're just cursed with higher libidos? But it doesnt sound like you are out of sync for your age at all. It sounds like your bf is having some issues. Does he have confidence issues? I've found thats the underlying factor in a man's sex drive - if he's no confident or doesnt think he can please you, then he is reluctant to try at all. You said he's seeing a sex therapist - ever tried going with him? Discussing your issues as a couple together in therapy? I've never done that, but I cant imagine it would hurt.

I hope you figure things out. Also, cheating is never a solution. If you feel you need to cheat to gain the kind of attention out of a relationship, maybe you should consider leaving the relationship. I know, you said that sex shouldn't be a reason to break up with someone, but can you honestly say you'd be happy with your bf forever the way you are now? If things don't change, you might need to consider leaving the relationship. It's hard, but you need to make yourself happy above all else...