I thank you for your words of wisdom and I would like to comment on the statement you made above...... to me and where I am right now (at a cross road) that statement tells me that I am to still make "my life" decisions based on others.

Does a person ever have the right to live their life for them and them alone?
To do as they feel they need to... and yes I am married (24 yrs) with two son (25 & 20).