In order for me to give the full story it will take some time. I'll see if I can shorten it....
I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half, off and on. I am 25 and she is 22. She has a 3 year old daughter with her ex that I haven't met in person but who knows about me.
About 6 - 7 months into us dating we broke up. Main reasons being I was staying at her place because I felt she wanted me there more and I was neglecting my friends and getting it from both ends. If I was with my friends she'd be blowing me up wondering where I was and if I was with her my friends would give me grief for not hanging out. We were broken up for about a month and during that month I hooked up with my ex and a new girl a few times and she tried dating her ex (not her babies dad). Well one day we met up to exchange stuff and all the feelings rushed back to me and I got her to date me again. I found out later that she told her ex she loved him while we were apart. When I talked to her about she said she only said it because he said it then she immediately took it back. She also said she always told him that I was what she wanted. There were a couple times after that where we broke up but not as long as that first time and I never went back to my ex. I asked her one time that if she had even spoken to her ex while we were apart the other time we wouldn't be together and she said she hadn't. I later found out she lied and had talked to him again. She didn't do anything with him though. I have been working on my temper and so has she. We've been trying to work things out but we still have little fights here and there and they're normally over the same things just a little different. If she didn't have her daughter then I would not have tried this hard. And we also have two cats together so they are another factor making me work harder. I want us to work and I can see myself with her but her actions sometimes make me so angry I can't handle it. I am good at keeping my cool now and not losing my temper but it still makes me mad. Tonight we had a fight over money. I don't think I explained everything that well but maybe I gave you all enough info to give me some advice. If you are confused or have questions please ask them. Thank you.