I think the right T for you will understand your defensiveness and try to find a way to work with it. This doesn't mean they will be successful right off the bat, but that they will be accepting of how you are reacting and compassionate while giving you ideas to help you feel more comfortable in the therapy.

In my opinion, the right therapist for you will not say you are "too _______" or "hard to work with." Those judgments do nothing to help establish therapeutic safety and would make anybody even more defensive!