You are only telling me what my therapist has already done so, he even suggested a female therapist but that won't work for me, he is the only person I have ever told many things to and I can't go through it again. While we are filling a need for each other I know I am getting stronger. If I get to the point of not being able to handle an end to the relationship I always have 800mg of valium + to end everything. It realy does,t matter whether I do or don't, I really can't see myself facing 20+ years of living with the medical problem I have which is neither going to get worse or better but just makes living so restricted. As for reporting him to authorities I would never do that.