Hi I am new to this so I don't really know what I am doing so here goes nothin....My husband and I have been married for 6 months but we have been together for 3 years now. I love the man with all of my heart but lately I haven't been happy.

My husband drinks everyday (minus his days off) and while I might not have a problem with a few beers after work, he gets drunk everytime. I have noticed lately that he has been very unhappy at work and no matter what I say or do it doesn't help him. He starts (verbally) taking out his anger on me. He tells me what is bothering him but if I don't have a solution to his problem it all gets turned around onto me.....I spend too much money, I don't listen, I care more about my friends than him, etc. etc.

I have expressed my concerns to him when he is sober and he just laughs and says he doesn't do that. Last night (i work graveyard shift) I was sleeping for a total of three hours when he woke me up to talk to me about work, I listened and told him that no matter what decision he made regarding a change in jobs or not I would back him up 100% and it was his decision to make. He didn't like that answer so he began yelling at me and telling me i only talk to him when I need something. I tried to go back to sleep knowing this would only be worse if I argued and he made enough noise to keep me and half the neighborhood awake.

Then as I laid in bed I started thinking about all the times him and I have been intimate and realized I can count on One Finger how many times he has had sex with me sober. Is it me? I am overwheight but I was when we got married.

I am very depressed and have been contimplating a divorce...am I jumping the gun? I can't live like this forever...I am depressed and sick to my stomach and don't really know what to do. I don't want to leave him but shouldn't I put my mental health first? Please someone, anyone can you help me?????