I can soooo relate to what you're feeling, and I too haven't been able to make that step because of those feelings.

I think this post is an excellent topic to address with your T....to explore the struggle of what you're feeling.

My T told me before that I need to allow myself to feel anger towards my parents before I am able to get to the next stage....and ultimately, I will go back to loving them and accepting them even with their limitations. It's incredibly hard to do. I haven't gotten there yet - for all the reasons you listed.