Asking what the other person does when you are broken up is always hard. When you break up, you break up. The feelings may still be there but you aren't together any more. It's like being upset because someone dated and has a history before you met. I totally understand the feelings of being upset she lied--lying just makes everything worse. But it seems there is anger on both parts about who you dated while you were apart. Working on anger is a hard thing...it's usually something we have had with us for a long time.