((((((Peaches))))) My feeling when I read your post was that you are honoring your mother and your father. You are honoring them with your love, a lot of it, and respect for what/how much they gave you, your deep faith, and that you are able to love them in return. It seems to be to be a great act of love and respect to dig deeper into the angry feelings and hurt you had as a child in order to love and respect them without the burden of anger and hurt and sadness.

You know that as you process these feelings, the hope/goal is that you will be able to love them in a deeper way. Even processing your feelings in your dream is a way to love your father in this deeper way. It seems to me that you dont want so much anger in the way and even in an unconscious, dream-way, you know what is pushing at you. Your anger isnt hate, hate isnt anger. Its OK to be angry and to work it through and then maybe see him in a more realistic way. This, to me, is very honoring of him and of God. Even if its sarcastic in the letter you wrote. Whether we are conscious of it or not, we are in this process not as anger for anger's sake, but as a way to get beyond it and feel love deeply without denying who the person is/has been to us. You may later get to a point where you just love them in this way for who they are, the good and the bad. And I think this kind of geniune love is what we are here for and what God intended (not that I am any kind of expert on God's intentions )