peaches, i don't think it is wrong to feel anger but i think it's more what we do with it. do we let it fester and grow and turn into hate and bitterness and hold grudges? ugh, been there, done that and don't recommend it. or are we honest about it and feel it and release it and eventually forgive those who hurt us? i think that is what God is asking us to do. it is a process though and can't be rushed through to get rid of the anger we feel guilty for feeling. it is manytimes not a one-time event and involves many tears and much pain. we are not to lie about our feelings. that certainly wouldn't be honoring God! besides, even if it were wrong to feel anger God already knows. he would just gently ask that we give it over to him rather than deny it.

i think honoring your parents means being honest about what they did and feeling our feelings but forgiving them and having compassion for them, also appreciating the good things they did as well. like someone said earlier we are not our actions good or bad. honor the person, not the sin.

i think God wants to restore people. he wants to see people who are hurt restored, he wants to see the person who has done the hurt restored to a place of health so they don't continue hurting, and he wants to restore the relationship between them if possible. i think the greatest gift we can give to people when they hurt us is forgiveness. it does cost us though. to me, that is being a good daughter.