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Originally Posted by Junerain
Imagining you were in the place of someone (empathy  ) is very powerful. My family lacks empathy- my mother knows how trying my life has been with bipolar and she says with disgust in her voice- YOU HAVE HAD A HORRIFIC LIFE!!!! With disgust in her voice, removing herself from caring or empathizing. She could add, but I love you anyway, but she does not, just looks away with disgust in her eyes also. She says a part of her died when she learned I was bipolar, she calls anything out of the ordinary that I do "WEIRD!!" She even admitted she wanted a daughter more like my friend I grew up, who read a whole lot.
Empathy would be great, I think that's the major thing I lack from my family (they're all 6 figure snobby uppity people) (I got planted in this family SOMEHOW it skipped a generation...) and THAT is what I look for at PC, I enjoy providing it and feeling from others also..
...to be understood at the place we are at.....priceless...((((PC)))))) |
Mothers take it very personally when one of their children are not "perfect". They cannot, for some reason, get beyond themselves and encourage and love and support because they get so caught up in their own pain from having an imperfect child, often also experiencing guilt as if it was somehow their fault that their child ended up with such difficulty. You are right when you say they cannot show empathy and it's because they can never reach that point because of all the other emotions, motherly emotions, they torture themselves with daily. It also ends up just like you described, looking to you as if she despises you. Frankly, it is very cruel of her to say those things about wanting another daughter, like your friend. That was just over the top. Very abusive. Totally uncalled for.
((((((((((( Junerain )))))))))))) 
