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Old Jan 13, 2010, 08:40 PM
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Originally Posted by fallenangel337 View Post
I think she does to some extent...I've never asked her directly. She's said things that make me believe she cares to some extent, but then something like this happens, and it makes me take a step back.

I don't think I could ever ask her that...I think that would be awkward beyond belief. That, and I think it would be kind of pointless, because really, who would say no? Regardless of whether she does or not, I'm sure she would say she does.
Hearing it and believing it are two different things, I guess. I remember a time when I addressed the therapeutic relationship with my T, and I didn't outright ask him if he cared about him. I asked him (in writing because I couldn't muster up the courage to actually say the words) if he "cared about helping me".

He responded that he not only cared to help me, but enjoyed helping me....explained a bunch of reasons to support his statement (which helped me to know that it was a genuine response)....and then said, "and I care about you personally in addition to that".

It would certainly be worthwhile to at least tell your T that you felt as though she didn't care, by her statement....and see where that takes you. You just might be surprised.
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