It's so hard when our T's don't meet our expectations for things, even when we consider them basic things any normal person would say (or not say).

You may find that your T has reasons for phrasing things the way she did, or that she simply didn't know what you needed at the time. You needed reassurance that she cared. You could even say that to her.

Hold on to the ways you remember her caring. I know I go back and forth a lot about if my T likes me/cares about me. And I've found that if I can remember the times when I felt cared for by her, it makes the other times easier to get through.